Something just happened.
The call. The fall. The diagnosis. You need to know what to do in the next hour, not the next year.
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Nobody told you what to do next. I will.
I'm Alyssa. For 15 years I worked inside hospice and healthcare. At almost every kitchen table, I heard the same six words: "I wish someone would have told me sooner."
This is me telling you sooner. Plain answers. Word-for-word scripts. One clear next step for the day you're in.
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Alyssa GivensCertified Grief Counselor (AIHCP). 15 years inside hospice and healthcare. President, Heart of Hospice Foundation.
The part no one prepares you for
You're expected to be the nurse, the lawyer, and the planner. All at once.
You're managing medications. Decoding paperwork. Sitting through appointments where the doctor has twelve minutes and you have forty questions. All while trying to keep your own life from coming apart.
Nobody trained you for any of it. So you make big decisions on no sleep and hope they're right.
The hardest part isn't the work. It's never knowing if you're doing the next thing right, or missing something that matters.
You sign something you shouldn't have.
Because it was handed to you in a hallway and everyone was waiting.
You don't sign something you should have.
Because nobody mentioned it until it was too late to matter.
You miss a window nobody told you was closing.
Legal. Financial. Medical. They all have one.
Families don't make these mistakes because they don't care. They make them because nobody told them what to do first. That's the problem I fix.
Start where you are
What's happening in your house right now?
Hospice was just mentioned.
Someone said the word and moved on like you understood it. Here's what the first 48 hours really look like.
Get the free hospice guide →Something is changing.
You're noticing things. You can't tell if it's serious. If you're noticing, you are not overreacting.
Get the free First Signs guide →I've been at this a while.
You're past the first crisis and deep in the daily grind. You need scripts, a plan, and backup.
See the full guides →Take this with you today
Stop saying "I'm fine." Ask for one task.
When someone says, "Let me know if you need anything," they mean it. They just don't know what to do. So hand them one task, one day, and a deadline to answer.
It works because it's specific. The guides are full of scripts like this one. For the doctor. For the discharge planner. For the sibling who keeps promising to help.
"Could you bring dinner on Tuesday? Something simple is fine. Can you let me know by Sunday so I can plan?"Say it out loud once. Then send it.
The guides
Everything I'd tell you if I were sitting at your kitchen table.
You don't read these cover to cover. You flip to where you are, and the answer is waiting.
When crisis hits
Caregiver Triage
8 critical moves for the first 24 hours. What to do first. What to say to the doctor. What not to sign yet.
- 27 pages you can use with shaking hands
- Scripts for the doctor, the ER, and the discharge planner
- The four documents that decide everything
$19
See Caregiver TriageWhen hospice enters the conversation
The Hospice Guide
The 72 questions every hospice family asks. Answered in the order you'll need them.
- 200+ pages, from the decision to the grief after
- The morphine question, answered honestly
- 50+ word-for-word scripts for the hard conversations
$67
See the Hospice GuideFor the whole road
The Caregiving Guide
From the first sign to the life after. The map I wish every family had walked in the door with.
- 250+ pages, color-coded so you find your stage fast
- Medicare, Medicaid, and the legal documents in plain language
- A full scripts library, including the sibling who won't help
$67
See the Caregiving GuideMy promise: if you buy a guide and don't find at least one thing that changes how you handle your situation, email me within 7 days and I'll refund it.
From families
What it's like to have Alyssa in your corner.
"We called Alyssa and she walked us through everything. She has a calming presence and gives it to you straight, no fluff, but still so understanding. We came away with a plan and with resources. That call changed the trajectory for our whole family."
Joslyn M., daughter and primary caregiver
"Like a lot of families, we were afraid of the morphine, until she broke it down for us. She also helped us understand what hospice should be doing for us. She is an advocate for your family."
Amanda H., granddaughter
"I had siblings who said they wanted to help but never did, and the guide helped me lead those conversations and actually get what I needed from them. After using it, I felt like I had a friend walking with me."
Samantha R., daughter and caregiver
Work with me one-on-one
Some weeks you don't have it in you to read a guide.
You just need someone who knows to look at your situation and tell you what to do next. That's the Family Care Navigation Session. 45 minutes, one-on-one. You bring your situation. I bring 15 years inside hospice and caregiving.
- Your next 3 to 5 moves, in priority order
- Word-for-word language for the conversations you're dreading
- A written action plan within 24 hours
- 14 days of email follow-up, so you're not left alone with the plan
- Only 4 sessions a week, so each family gets my full attention
Meet Alyssa
I have been in the room. I have also been in the chair.
I started at a front desk answering phones. Over 15 years I became a hospice liaison, a hospice social worker, a grief counselor, and a healthcare leader.
Then it stopped being theoretical. I stopped being only the person helping patients. I became one too.
I know both sides now. That's why everything here does one job: it takes the guesswork away before a crisis forces your hand.
Read my storyComing next, with your help
Taking care of you while you're taking care of them.
"Take care of yourself" is easy to say when you have time, money, and backup. Most caregivers have none of the three. I'm building something practical for that, and I want you to help shape it.
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